I know I've said this to you already, but I'll say it again for the sake of the other people reading this letter: Welcome to the Sisterhood of Military Wives. You've probably figured this out by now, but this military life isn't
First, and this is very important, you need to not need your husband. I know how that might sound especially to a starry-eyed bride. The romantic notions of "I can't live without you" are just that -'romantic notions'. You literally need to not need having a man around. For example, running a sticky jar lid under warm water and banging the lid on the edge of the counter, and flipping it over and slapping the bottom of the jar is usually enough to get it open. Learn how to do the things that your dad used to do for you, like mowing the lawn and changing the bulbs. Unlike your friends with civilian husbands, your "Honey-Do" list is, at least when your husband is gone, just your own "To-Do" list. Of course, these are just the practical things, but the whole "need to not need" extends to the emotional part of yourself too. Because the occasional Skype session from half the world away isn't exactly emotionally fulfilling. This is where two things become very, very important.
The very first thing is this: Get good with God. However that works for you. Whether its church and Bible Studies, or just meditation and prayer... Get good with God because you're going to need Him. Especially when your Hubs is deployed and you happen across a news report. (When your Hubs is deployed avoid the news. Just do. Unless you love mental torment and sleepless nights, then by all means... CNN it up!)
The second thing is this: I know you are a bit introverted, but you're going to have to shed that. At least a little because those other women whose husbands are off sharing living space with your husband are your best support system, and everyone needs a support system. Again, this may not be quite as big of a deal now, but when the kids come... It really, really will be. This also brings me to friendship dating. It's a real thing with us military wives. You'll see. One day you'll find yourself sitting with another woman and within your two-hour dinner date sharing with her all your personal, life-story things that took months to reveal to your spouse when you were dating. This is because time is too short anywhere you go and you'll need at the very least one good friend. You don't have the luxury of taking your time with finding and nurturing friendships. You just have to dive right in.
Also, keep a journal. They're great for emotional dumping.
Something else, when your Hubs is gone for an extended period of time write down a list of things you want to do while he's away. My lists always include chick-flicks and Indian restaurants, because my Hubs hates chick-flicks and Indian food. Some women I know get ambitious and write things like: complete a half-marathon. Then they spend 90% of their free time in a gym, and that's what works for them. My best advice: Don't compare yourself to these women. ;)
Know that some of the most difficult times in marriages are immediately following deployments.
Know that you're not alone. Not really.
About the military lingo. Urgh! All. Those. Acronyms. This is just one little thing in a whole new culture you now belong to. Go to the on-post, on-base, on-(what does the Navy call them?) and check out a book or two on "How-To-Be-A-[military branch]-Wife." Yes books like that exist, and they are incredibly helpful. You didn't just marry a man, you also married the military and now there are cultural things you need to know. Like how to read rank. And what may or may not be expected of you at certain functions. And Oh! The functions! The functions... Find a stand-out recipe (or two) and get really good at making it.
While your at the library, befriend the librarians -chances are good they're fellow military-spouses. Again, you need friends and at least you know you share a common love for reading with them.
Anyway, this is getting long and I'm out of time. (My kid is getting more and more desperate for my attention.) Congratulations of your marriage! I wish I could have been there! You've always been a favorite of mine. Please know that I love this life, and I hope you will too! You now share in a heritage with strong, courageous women who make quiet sacrifices for this wonderful country of ours. The sacrifices are worth it because freedom is worth it. So, thank you for what you do.
Wishing you all the best!