Surely a "good" LDS wife is an apron wearing bread baker who scrapbooks, and crafts, while she packs lunches for her (minimum of) six children. Of course she also reads and sings to them while she irons and folds laundry, sews those matching dresses, keeps her eye on the dinner in the oven, and vacuums her large & perfectly decorated home. She totes the tots to Target and back in the suburban during the week and devotes her Friday nights to her Honey for their weekly date-night. In her free time she gardens and cans for food storage, among other things. She also, magically, stays (somewhat) thin, and always has clean, curled, highlighted hair.
I'm pretty sure that part of what she meant by "reprogramming" is accepting that this Woman is fictional. Well, for 98% of us anyway. (We all know a Sister So-n-so who seems to be a regular Wonder Woman, so maybe she actually is. The world will never know.)
So for you my friend, I'd like to let you know I do own an apron, I even sometimes wear it -but I've never baked bread. I don't scrapbook. I don't craft. I do read and sing, but I have a personal rules against ironing laundry and folding clothes. Someday I might have my kids (for sure not six of them) wear matching outfits, but the chances of me sewing those: zero. I consider myself successful if I make dinner once in a week. My floors are not vacuumed. My shelves are not dusted. I do like the way I've decorated, and if Hubby made bucket loads of money, I'd for sure be spending it at Target. And Hobby Lobby. I will [do my very best to] not own a suburban. Hubby and I haven't been on a date since, I think, June. I like to garden. Sort of. If I had to live on our year supply -we'd be starving by the third week.
And yet, I'm pretty sure that I am a "good" Mormon. Life is about doing what you can, when you can -and living the gospel does not require a clean house, prefect hair, or lots of kids. You know?